Sexy Times: Foods for Libido and Food for Thought Before the Deed

Married people have sex. They have more sex than the movies and books account for, with their misleading notion that single people have more and better sex than married ones. Well then, after marriage, after divorce, some abstain, and are happy about it. And some date again, and, along with companionship, sex comes with the territory.

Mature dating involves more or less the same criteria before the two involved do the deed. Make a checklist of the following parameters to see if you’re at that stage or perhaps not yet.

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  • Are you the only one? You may be ‘old’, but there’s no age bracket for wanting to be exclusive, at least for the time-being. Casually ask, “Are you going out with anyone else?” You don’t want to feel ‘dirty’ afterwards. You want to feel fine! So find out.

  • Do you feel comfortable with each other that baring everything is exciting and even a perceptible demand between you two, rather than terrifying?

  • Is the kissing so good? Is the laughter loud and hard? Funny is sexy. And kissing is testing the waters, of course. These two combined give you a prediction as well as a predilection for your chemistry.

  • Even if you two are open about dating for sex, do you feel understood? Rapport is chemistry, too, and essential for sex to be great, better, more than just two bodies.

If you have found someone, here’s our list of nutritious (and naughty) foods for good ol’ sexy times. Basically, if it’s good for the blood, it’s good for you two. Chocolate is well and good. It boosts serotonin (responsible for desire, among others) and endorphin (responsible for a feeling of happiness and satisfaction) levels, but it doesn’t do much for sexual performance and arousal.

Along with the usual ones in the photo banner below (rich in omega-3 and fatty acids for good blood flow, wink wink), you might be surprised at how powerful the following foods are, and they’re right in your pantry or fridge!


Rich in phytochemicals that enhance libido and endurance.


High vitamin C content, aids in blood circulation to organs. Linked to an improved female libido.


Add powdered cloves on Mexican food, brew it in hot apple cider. Not only does it get rid of bad breath, it’s a scientifically proven aphrodisiac. For centuries, it has been used in India to treat male sexual dysfunction.


Stimulates and enhances pheromone secretion. You and your partner will act like hormonal teenagers.


Watermelon contains a phytonutrient called citrulline, which the body converts to arginine, an amino acid that boosts nitric oxide levels in the body, which relax blood vessels in the same way a medicine like Viagra does! 92% is water, but the 8% packs a powerful punch.


Low in calories, high in protein, and a good source of the amino acid L-arginine, which has been shown effective in treating certain heart problems and erectile dysfunction.


According to research from the University of Hawaii, women who took a ginseng supplement significantly increased their libido in a month, and 68 percent also said their overall sex life improved dramatically. Be wary of ginseng drinks, however, that only come with sugar and chemicals. Try organic ginseng teas.


Expensive but worth it to add this to your grains serving of the week (after soaking in hot water for 15 minutes, add it to rice, quinoa, or barley, etc.). You can also use it in soups and stews. Perfect for winter. Research from the University of Guelph has found saffron can powerful in improving sexual performance.


Who knew nibbling on iceberg lettuce at dinner would have you ready to have a go by bedtime? Iceberg lettuce has an opiate that helps to activate sex hormones.


Also a libido-enhancer. Ginger’s so good. It would also clear you up so you wouldn’t have to get frisky with a clogged or dripping nose.

Oysters and Other Shellfish

Oysters, clams, crabs, lobsters and mussels are high in zinc, the magic trigger that creates a surge in sex hormones. They also contain two rare amino acids: D-aspartic acid and N-methyl-D-aspartate. According to an American-Italian research in 2005 at Barry University in Miami and the Laboratory of Neurobiology in Naples, Italy, these amino acids increased testosterone in the males and progesterone in the females, the hormones of sexual activity.

Just be careful about your source of shellfish. They absorb the toxins of the sea. If that scares you, eat spinach. All the zinc, without the mercury and other unfriendlies.