10 Words and 10 Tricks for An Irresistible Online Dating Profile

online dating profileSome people make it look like it’s so easy, but then you sit down to make your profile and you’re stumped. What on earth do you say? And how can you make yourself sound nice and the opposite of puffed-up or stuck up?

Here are our tips:

1. Dress up a little. If you feel pretty or debonair, it will come out in what you write: confident. You don’t have to go all out. Some women feel done up just putting on their ‘sexy’ shoes or swiping lipstick and a touch of mascara. Men, wear your best shirt or coat. Spritz some perfume. Feel it from the inside and you’ll be able to show it outwardly, what a catch you are.

2. Write your profile like it’s a resume, except your boss is a potential date or life mate instead. Many men and women stumble on their dating profile, torn between modesty and bragging. Sell yourself. Don’t hold back.

Ask your closest friends to enumerate your good and bad points and use what they tell you.

3. Show, don’t tell. Instead of saying you’re funny, be funny! Instead of saying you love travelling, include a short anecdote about that time you got expelled from a temple islet in Bali.

4. Be specific. “I love music and movies” sounds so dull compared to “The Beatles are still my best friends and I can quote Casablanca and Sabrina word for word.” The more passionate you are about an interest, the more names and titles you should drop. Call it your Top Twos. Avoid sounding like a generic personal ad. You like dining? List your favourite food and how many restaurants you’ve gone to in the pursuit of the perfect creme brulee.

5. Don’t waste space on enumerating dealbreakers. “I don’t want smokers” “If you were born after 1970, scoot” “Get out of here, trolls” and so on make you sound like the lady who sits at her window just to wave angrily at anything--fly or child or cat--that touches her grass.

One of the best advantages of online dating is the Delete or Block options. You won’t have to endure unwanted advances at all. And you don’t want to deter a good man or woman with your Stop signs.

6. Lay it out on the table. Most dating sites already ask your age, if you’ve been married, have kids, etc., but a line or two devoted to a big and significant chunk of your life is good. Don’t lie even if you’re 62 and look 42.

7. But don’t be too honest. This is still a social media site and stranger danger and all that. Be interesting and be mindful of location’s importance. Some prefer potential dates to be in a certain area. Casting a wide net means being flexible. Borrow your (former) work address’s postal code--you’d meet there in the city at first anyway!

8. And speaking of casting a wide net, it helps to boost how approachable you are if you’re not too particular about little things. Not many in this country smoke nowadays, but what if the financially stable person with a healthy sense of humour and who gets all your subtleties is a smoker?

9. People are visual creatures. Most ARE hooked by photos, and then are either turned off or completely reeled in with the well-done profile. Choose your photos well. Some of your face, some including your body. Many depicting you in your natural environment, with your dog or cat, snuggling with a book, or digging with the grandbabies in your garden. Let your photos also testify on who you are and what you’re like.

10. Use the words that work. Avoid the ones that don’t.

Words that work:

Male:

Perceptive
Physically fit
Passionate
Intelligent
Ambitious
Optimistic
Funny
Warm
Creative
Thoughtful

Female:

Sweet
Funny
Ambitious
Thoughtful
Easy-going
Passionate
Outgoing
Hard working
Spontaneous
Happy

 

Words that don't:

Male:

Quiet
Energetic
Respectful
Modest
Kind
Sweet
Good listener
Loyal
Caring
Spiritual

Female:

Spiritual
Quiet
Romantic
Good listener
Rational
Articulate
Modest
Respectful
Dependable
Intelligent